原文作者：侯东仪

　　这是一位父亲在自己70岁生日来临时，在孩子的博客里写下的自己的经验分享，同时也是十堂宝贵的人生经验课！
　　1. uncertainty is certain.
　　唯有变化才是不变的。
　　everything is always uncertain. there are infinite （无限的） possibilities， which is what makes miracles possible.
 　　世界上所有的事情都是不确定的。有着无数个可能性，这才让世界上有了奇迹。
　　nobody on earth knows how things will turn out for you， if you give it your all， sometimes amazing things happen， but they’ll rarely be precisely （精确地；恰好地） what you had expected.
 　　世界上没有人会知道下一秒会发生什么，所以你每天都应该跟随着自己的直觉和激情向前走。如果你倾注全力，好事真的可能会发生，但如你所愿真的很少见。
　　2. life is a circle.
　　生命是一个循环。
　　everything you do， everything you say， every choice you make， comes back around.
 　　你做的每一件事，说的每句话以及做的每一个决定都会反馈到你身上。wwW.11665.cOm
　　if you want to be rich， be generous. if you want to make friends， be friendly. if you want to be understood by others， take the time to truly understand them. if you want to be heard， listen.
 　　如果想要富有，那就慷慨点。想交朋友，就友好点。想被他人理解，就花点时间去了解别人。想要被倾听，先学会去倾听。
　　if you want to live an interesting life， be interested the happenings around you. if you wish to truly learn and master a skill， study what you can and then teach someone else what you know. if you long for （渴望） peace， act in peace and harmony （和谐）. if you want the world to change， start with the one in the mirror.
 　　想生活得有滋有味，就要对周围发生的一切充满兴趣。如果想真正学习和掌握一个技能，就尽可能地学习，并教给别人你所知道的。如果渴望和平，那就平静和谐地处事。如果想改变世界，先改变你自己。
 　　what you give is eventually what you get. whatever it is you hope to achieve in this life， give it， nurture （培育） it， be it， and you will enjoy a lifetime filled with it.
 　　你付出多少就会回报多少。无论你想在生活中完成什么，只要去付出，培养，坚持，最终你会发现人生充满了回报。 [论文网]
　　3. discipline （纪律） is the mother of
　　all virtues （美德）.
　　自律是所有美德之母。
　　discipline is the chief element of bringing ideas to life. no matter how smart， skilled， or capable （能干的） you are， nothing is possible or achievable without a disciplined mind.
 　　自律是能让生活充满灵感的最主要元素。无论你多聪明，多有才，多有能力，不自律的你也将会一事无成。
　　discipline is the ability to make yourself do the thing you have to do， whether you want to or not at any given moment. it is the most important of all the virtues because without it， you can’t practice any other virtue consistently.
 　　自律就是那种逼着自己去做应该做的事的能力，不关乎你的意愿和时间。这是所有美德中最重要的，没有它，你无法长久保持其他的美德。
　　4. you have full control of your fears.
　　你能控制自己的恐惧。
　　your fear is 100% dependent on you for its survival， and it is the only thing standing between you and your goals. deal with your fears； don’t let them deal with you.

　恐惧的产生百分百基于你自己。这是唯一阻挡在你的目标前的东西。战胜你的恐惧，别被它打败。
　　have patience with the thoughts and concerns that remain unsolved （未解决的） in your heart. instead of wasting energy on avoiding what you don’t want， spend it on obtaining the knowledge you need to achieve what you do want.
 　　对那些一直在心中纠结的想法和烦恼有点耐心吧。与其浪费精力来逃避这些麻烦，不如花时间来学习那些你想要学到的知识。
　　5. good friends are price

less.
　　好友无价。
　　friends and acquaintances （熟人） come and go， but good friends are hard to come by. they’re the ones who are always there with you in spirit—the ones who leave footprints in your thoughts and dreams. they are the glue （胶水） that binds （使……紧密联系） a smile to your soul.
 　　朋友和熟人来了又去，但好朋友可不是随随便便就会出现的。他们一直在精神上与你同在——会对你的想法和梦想产生影响。他们能让你发自内心地微笑。
　　hang on to them dearly. reach out and make an effort to stay connected. don’t get so busy or tired that you neglect their existence. treat your good friends like loyalty.
 　　真心的对待她们吧。努力地去和她们保持联系。别因为太忙或劳累忽视了他们的存在。对待好友要忠诚。
　　6. it’s impossible to love someone who doesn’t love himself or herself.
　　不自爱的人也无法爱别人。
　　when someone doesn’t love who they are， they pretend to be someone else， and others end up falling in love with their mask， instead of who they really are. to keep the affection they keep pretending and performing behind this mask.
 　　不爱自己的人总是伪装成别人，其他人爱上的是这层面具，不是真实的他们。他们需要不断地保持伪装的热情，戴着面具过日子。
　　bottom line： self love is the greatest gift —to live and to teach. the best way to love someone is to help them love themselves.
 　　总结：自爱是最棒的礼物——去生活，去教人。爱别人最好的方式就是帮助他们去爱自己。
　　7. it’s impossible to know exactly how another feels.
　　不可能知道别人真正的感受。
　　the hearts and minds of others are mysterious， always， no matter how deep into them you venture.
 　　别人的心中和脑中所想都是神秘的。无论你多么了解一个人，你都无法真正明白。
　　even if you have known a person for a hundred years， it is impossible to know exactly what he or she is feeling. you can’t feel something for them， or know exactly how their mind is processing something.
 　　即使你认识这个人一百年了，也不可能完全知道他或她的感受。你无法代替他们去感受，或是知道他们脑海中到底在想些什么。
　　what you can do is be a friend who listens， supports， and loves openly without ly.
 　　自律就是那种逼着自己去做应该做的事的能力，不关乎你的意愿和时间。这是所有美德中最重要的，没有它，你无法长久保持其他的美德。
　　4. you have full control of your fears.
　　你能控制自己的恐惧。
　　your fear is 100% dependent on you for its survival， and it is the only thing standing between you and your goals. deal with your fears； don’t let them deal with you.
 　　恐惧的产生百分百基于你自己。这是唯一阻挡在你的目标前的东西。战胜你的恐惧，别被它打败。

　　have patience with the thoughts and concerns that remain unsolved （未解决的） in your heart. instead of wasting energy on avoiding what you don’t want， spend it on obtaining the knowledge you need to achieve what you do want.
 　　对那些一直在心中纠结的想法和烦恼有点耐心吧。与其浪费精力来逃避这些麻烦，不如花时间来学习那些你想要学到的知识。
　　5. good friends are priceless.
　　好友无价。
　　friends and acquaintances （熟人） come and go， but good friends are hard to come by. they’re the ones who are always there with you in spirit—the ones who leave footprints in your thoughts and dreams. they are the glue （胶水） that binds （使……紧密联系） a smile to your soul.
 　　朋友和熟人来了又去，但好朋友可不是随随便便就会出现的。他们一直在精神上与你同在——会对你的想法和梦想产生影响。他们能让你发自内心地微笑。
　　hang on to them dearly. reach out and make an effort to stay connected. don’t get so busy or tired that you neglect their existence. treat y

our good friends like loyalty.
 　　真心的对待她们吧。努力地去和她们保持联系。别因为太忙或劳累忽视了他们的存在。对待好友要忠诚。
　　6. it’s impossible to love someone who doesn’t love himself or herself.
　　不自爱的人也无法爱别人。
　　when someone doesn’t love who they are， they pretend to be someone else， and others end up falling in love with their mask， instead of who they really are. to keep the affection they keep pretending and performing behind this mask.
 　　不爱自己的人总是伪装成别人，其他人爱上的是这层面具，不是真实的他们。他们需要不断地保持伪装的热情，戴着面具过日子。
　　bottom line： self love is the greatest gift —to live and to teach. the best way to love someone is to help them love themselves.
 　　总结：自爱是最棒的礼物——去生活，去教人。爱别人最好的方式就是帮助他们去爱自己。
　　7. it’s impossible to know exactly how another feels.
　　不可能知道别人真正的感受。
　　the hearts and minds of others are mysterious， always， no matter how deep into them you venture.
 　　别人的心中和脑中所想都是神秘的。无论你多么了解一个人，你都无法真正明白。
　　even if you have known a person for a hundred years， it is impossible to know exactly what he or she is feeling. you can’t feel something for them， or know exactly how their mind is processing something.
 　　即使你认识这个人一百年了，也不可能完全知道他或她的感受。你无法代替他们去感受，或是知道他们脑海中到底在想些什么。
　　what you can do is be a friend who listens， supports， and loves openly without judgment. only then will you get a momentary （瞬间的） glimpse （一瞥） into their soul.
 　　你可以做的就是和那些倾听你，支持你和无条件爱你的人做朋友。这样你才能在那一瞬间，得以瞥见他们的灵魂。
　　8. connecting with your purpose brings great results.
　　有的放矢能带来好结果。
　　don’t allow others to convince （劝服） your heart what to do. your heart already knows. listen to it. you’ve got to stand up for something specific， on your own two legs， or you will achieve nothing great in life.

　别让别人说服你该去干什么。你的心早有答案。跟随自己的心。你必须用自己两条腿站起来，为了心中所想的那件特定的事努力，否则一辈子都会一事无成。
　　success comes from making a solid and persistent （坚持不懈的） connection to that purpose. getting anything done is a matter of continuing to remember why you have chosen to do this thing in the first place.
 　　只有紧紧地抓住和坚持那个目标，成功才会到来。做好每件事能让你始终记住到底为什么一开始选择做这件事。
　　in the end， focused and persistent effort always brings great achievement. when your efforts are driven by your purpose， you can keep these efforts going for as long as it takes to reach this achievement.
 　　最后，坚持不懈地努力能带来最好的回报。当你的努力由目标驱使，你就可以向着这个目标不断地前进努力。
　　9. a positive vision makes a big difference.
　　积极的想象会产生大影响。
　　don’t just see things the way they are. imagine you are in the place you want to be， skillfully doing what you are capable of doing. imagine you are in this place living the life you desire. allow yourself to dream in full color， and know with certainty， that this dream is achievable if you want it to be.
 　　别一成不变地看待问题。想象自己身处梦想之中，做那些你有能力做的事情。想象自己过着一直盼望的生活。允许自己做个多彩的梦，要坚信，只要你坚持，梦想就能成真。
　　imagine the things you desire are achievable and they will be， day after day， moment by moment， as you step boldly （大胆地） in the direction of your vision. give this vision （想象） all you’ve got，

mentally and physically， and you’ll be amazed at the energy and excellence that comes out of you in the long run.
 　　想象你想做的每件事都是可达到的，并最终会达到，日复一日，分分秒秒，朝着你的梦想大胆地迈进。拼尽全力去为了这个目标努力吧。你最终肯定会感叹自己原来能释放这么多的能量和智慧。
 　　10. your journey is what you make of it.
　　路是你自己走出来的。
　　there’s no such thing as perfect happiness. what does exist is a continuous series of imperfect （不完美的） moments filled with infinite possibilities and opportunities for you.
 　　没有什么完美的幸福。真正存在的是那些一连串连续的不完美的瞬间，夹杂着无限的可能性和机会。
　　you can pave （铺设） the road you travel with doubt and despair or hope and happiness. it’s your choice. either way， you will eventually arrive at the same destination. the only question is： do you want to arrive there with a frown （皱眉） or a smile？
 　　你的道路可以带有怀疑，失望抑或希望和幸福。这是你的选择，无论选择哪条路，最后都会到达同一个目的地。唯一的问题在于，你是想沮丧地到达还是微笑着到达呢？